Kids: The Experience of Growing Up Among Worlds. David C. Pollock and Ruth E. Van Reken. ISBN 1-85788-295-4; Nicholas Brealey Publishing,
brilliant.. will quickly become the most sought-after book in the
international expatriate community." - Barbara Schaetti, Transition
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is this book about?
acclaimed as the first and only book to fully examine the legacy of
transition and change shared by those who have grown up globally, Third
Culture Kids speaks to the challenges and rewards of a multiculural
childhood: the joy of discover and heartbreaking loss, its effect on
maturing and personal identity, and the difficulty in making the
transition home. Third Culture Kids give voice to children (and adults) everywhere who have grown up living
abroad -- Third Culture Kids (TCKs).
Through interviews, poetry, and personal writings, the authors validate
past experiences of TCKs, placing into clear context their shared
heritage and profiling typical characterstics and emotions - from
practical social skills, and identity development to restless and
delayed adolescence. For parents, educators, and the thousands of adult
TCKs around the world, the book brings to life the essence of the
cultural, emotional, physical and geographical experiences of the
nomadic life of a TCK.
insights are sound and research-based; the advice is practical and has
far-reaching potential; and the personal stories by scores of people
who grew up in a culture 'not their own' offe a richness of
understanding regarding the internal world and extensive experience of
third culture kids.. a must read" - David L. Wickstrom,
and Adult TCK.
"A goldmine of
book is a well-written, clear and systematic treatment of what is
surely a difficult theme, because everything pertaining to TCKs is so
several "Aha" moments while reading this book. In fact, I ended up
re-reading and underlining several passages.
being dislocated, constantly switching between
educational systems and meeting all kinds of people impacts one more
than one would care to imagine! A lot of it is definitely positive;
there are some negative consequences, too.
the unintended consequences of decisions made by our
parents, by the organizations they worked for, and by a host of a lot
of factors we simply cannot control -- but which impact us in
unpredictable ways. I would strongly recommend this to those who have
lived abroad during their developmental years." Anil
inside the book?
Overview of Third Culture Kids: The Experience of Growing Up Among
"Sometimes the third culture experience is unfairly blamed for
problems it didn't generate. At other times it is viewed as a pathology
for which therapy is needed and from which one must recover. It is my
[David Pollock's] conviction that being a TCK (Third Culture Kid) is
not a disease, something from which to recover. It is also not simply
okay--it is more than okay. It is a life healthily enriched by this
very TCK experience and blessed with significant opportunities for
further enrichment." (Introduction) (Credit
to Mark Ruch)
I — Understanding the World of TCKs
Chapters 1-4 introduce us to the
through the story of a TCK (chapter 1), the definition of a TCK
(chapter 2), why a cross-cultural childhood matters to the TCK (chapter
3), and why high mobility is an important and common theme in a TCK's
life (chapter 4).
II — The TCK Profile
Chapters 5 and 6 cover the many
benefits and challenges of growing up as a TCK:
- Expanded worldview vs. confused
- Three-dimensional view of the
world vs. painful view of reality
- Cross-cultural enrichment vs.
ignorance of the home (parental) culture
- Cultural chameleon: adaptability
vs. lack of true cultural balance
- Hidden immigrants: blending in vs.
defining the differences
- Prejudice: less vs. more
- Decisiveness: the importance of
now vs. the delusion of choice
- Relation to authority:
appreciative vs. distrustful
- Arrogance: real vs. perceived
Chapter 7 spells out the various skills
and abilities most TCKs have: cross-cultural skills,
skills, social skills, and linguistic skills.
Chapter 8 talks about the rootlessness and restlessness of TCKs and the problem with trying to define or even talk about where
Chapter 9 describes how some of
the relational patterns are uniquely different for TCKs and why that is
Chapter 10 delves into the
issues that confront TCKs, including early maturity and delayed
adolescence, as well as delayed adolescent rebellion and the whole
issue of having an identity in a "system."
Chapter 11 deals with unresolved grief.
One of the reasons why this is such a big issue for TCKs is because of
the many hidden losses that TCKs experience that may not be obvious or
recognized. Dealing with these losses can then be compounded by the
lack of permission to grieve, lack of time to process this grief, and
by the additional non-hidden multiple and intense losses involved in
leaving the field. The authors do an excellent job of delineating what
these hidden and non-hidden losses frequently are. In the latter part
of this chapter the authors describe the whole process of grieving as
it relates to TCKs.
III — Maximizing the Benefits
Chapters 12-18 give good advice and suggestions as to how one can maximize the benefits of being a TCK:
- building strong foundations for
- dealing with transitions
- meeting educational needs
- managing re-entry to the
- the role of sponsoring agencies.
section concludes on the positive note that it is never too late for
TCKs to deal with their issues.
book ends with appendices that include the results of a survey
on Adult TCKs, two selected writings of TCKs, as well as a great list
of worldwide resources for TCKs. The final note is a bibliography of
other books on TCKs.
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Kids: The Experience of Growing Up Among Worlds. David C. Pollock and
Ruth E. Van Reken. ISBN 1-85788-295-4; Nicholas Brealey Publishing,
- Paperback: 360
- Publisher: Nicholas Brealey Publishing; 2Rev Ed edition (May 25, 2001)
- ISBN-10: 1857882954